Wednesday, June 25, 2008

eating my own words

wow~ did an entire year go by just like that?! i was going to write for the very last time before giving birth to lumlum last june, but she had a different timetable in mind and decided to make an early appearance =p that post was going to be a little review on what i had shared at a workshop with some sunday school teachers on 'teaching & learning: the balance of sensitivity, stimulation & autonomy'; the content is here already so perhaps i'll go back to do some re-constructing later! perhaps, perhaps, perhaps...

yes, the original plan on day one was for me to blog and practice typing in chinese... but hey, i've eaten SOOO many of my words since our little bun popped out of the oven, why not do it again?! AND we've only just started *with our fingers crossed* to get some relatively more consolidated sleep over here, it would only be wise to go easy on myself for the sake of maintaining sanity!

pink are for girls and blue are for boys...
the most recent 'eating my own words' incident happened last week when a good friend took me to costco for their baby sleepers sale... and the lesson i learned from the experience-- never say never! well, ever since i found out it was a girl i was carrying in my tummy, i've been 'hinting' to people about how a girl doesn't have to wear pink *all the time* and that the baby's mama is never really a 'girly girl', blah blah blah! in actual fact, i only made the 'it's a girl!' announcement official on the day of the baby shower in hopes that there will be more neutral colours in her wardrobe *wink* tee hee hee, my 三姑姐 knows me so well-- when she bought these funky shoe-socks for lumlum, she chose the sports ones over the ballerina ones=)
oh but when this not-very-girly-mama gets to personally choose the colors for her baby (most of lumlum's clothes were given as gifts or hand-me-downs), she bought two-- one for now and one for next year-- both of which turned out to be pink!! AND this 'oh-my-goodness-i-got-my-daughter-everything-pink' realization only dawned on me a few days after the purchase... shocking. period.

zzzzzzzzzzzz...
and did i mention how gung-ho we were about sleep-training *read: before lumlum was born* that we genuinely entertained the idea of letting baby sleep in the storage by herself (we live in a one-bedroom apartment) because that and that alone constitutes the road to independence?! during pregnancy, whenever the idea of co-sleeping was introduced, i would strongly stand my ground and politely recite my speech on 'how independence is one of the greatest gifts we can give to our children, and how it can be very difficult for them to get out of their comfort zone if we allow any form of pampering, and how it would only make sense to start training them right at the very beginning, blah blah blah!' well, after witnessing this baby's ability to cry&scream at the top of her lungs in an uninterrupted manner for 2 hours (and got so worked up one time that she actually vomited), and being a sleep-research junkie for months, and enduring those brutal 1-to-2-hour-stretches night after night, we sort of jumped ship and have been shamelessly identifying ourselves with the 'by-all-means-necessary-so-everyone-can-get-some-sleep' camp... haha, something to work on later, i suppose=)

more eaten or waiting-to-be-eaten words to come...

ps-- to come... sometime in the near future, hopefully! this post was started 3 months ago and i only got around to finishing it now ^__^;;

6 comments:

Patrick Kwok said...

thanks for sharing! so true! I can't help my laughters, but "eating my own words" is such a funny entry. keep it up mommy! write more often!!

charwong said...

wow wow wow... lawrence and I always said "we will not behave like the other parents to queue up in midnight for applying a primary school"... and well, maybe we will end up doing that.. hmhm..

keep posting please and hope you won't eat your word of this. =)

tien said...

tee hee hee, mommy charlotte!! thanks for dropping by=) that's what parenting does to people, it seems... sort of like a round-the-clock reality check of our value system! the second-guessing of decisions can be frustrating at times cause there are just so many internal debates going on at any given time... am constantly learning to find a balance between the ideals and being real... which is part of growing up, i guess=)

we're looking forward to meeting your little one, too!!

and lumlum's dada-- haha, of course you would know how true those eaten words are=) glad you had a good laugh!!

Kityan Hime said...

haha...=) interesting....never say never....=P
happy to discover that lives change from time to time, and we learn and grow from all these experiences.
Mommy Tien, I love you so much! =)

littlenic said...

i've been thinking about this since some of my classmates started having babies....perhaps a dilamma of life? my thought goes: raising a kid at a young age seems more 'humane' in biological terms; but it's emotionally inversely true.

=) sending you virtual cat-nap biscuits...there!....=P

Holly Ming said...

write more! write more!
(i learnt the baby sign language for 'more' on youtube. i am doing it now. haha)